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Tuesday, 30 March 2010 21:44
Written by umbrella
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Recently Supreme Court declared that live-in relationships are not offensive in any way!

In any way??

How could a responsible judicial system dish out a verdict like this?

I'm not going to take a moral stand on this issue.

I agree, when 2 consenting adults decide to live together without the binding, humdrum legalities of matrimony, it's not an offense. It's their fundamental right.

But, in the name of fundamental rights, judiciary let out the vicious evil scot free which is extremely offensive to the familial setup we enjoy in India.

Live-in relationships boasts of nothing but lust! Of course lust is a positive, healthy emotion. But Lust comes with a lot of strings..like procreation.

Condoms are NOT foolproof! Accidents happen!

What of the children born out of wedlock?

Dont our so-called Judiciary has any responsibility towards children , the future rulers of this country??!!

After all. by recognizing such live-in relationships, Judiciary is stomping unconcernedly on such children's fundamental Rights!

Children have no fundamental rights?

Western world has so many good things to ape ! But why we always hellbent on aping the worst from them? Just by watching them, we all know what happens when giving into the popular term 'fundamental rights'! Single mothers, foster homes, ever increasing Juvenile homes, resulting in more heinous crimes.



It's influence on one's emotional equilibrium is more dangerous and disastrous. Thus developed the western society which is full of bitter, cynical, emotionally robbed off, extremely lonely people!

Do we want that here in India?

Live-in relationships are nothing but Lust of convenience! Those who don't trust each other, who are commitment-shy, who hate responsibilities, who lack mutual respect indulge in such relationships. If this is what live-in relationships offer, is it advisable to advocate it? It's definitely, undoubtedly anti-social!

Indulge in lust as much as u want! There ends that couple's so-called Fundamental Rights! Coming out of ur house, voicing ur anti social thoughts is crime because it influence innocents, uncorrupted young minds. It's a known fact that bad things attract the most!

As much as Judiciary is responsible for safe guarding constituional rights, it also should not forget that it has social responsibility too!

Fundamental rights are alright..only when practiced in good causes. Exploiting it at every given opportunity and Judiciary joining hands with such attitude is highly worrying! After all. Judiciary is not only responsible for keeping the constitutional rights. It has social responsibilities too!

If judiciary is going to act like "we act according to law and within law ', then they better stay out of such socially affecting, grossly misleading verdicts.

The pathetic thing is..the Judge quoted from Hindu mythology 'Krishna and Radha' to support his verdict.

If so..polygamy should also be acceptable..should be considered as fundamental rights!

A woman can have 5+1 husbands!

All brothers can marry the same woman!

Being a Playboy like Krishna is laudable!

Wooing and lusting after another man's wife [Radha]is not a crime!

Infidelity [Radha] attains god-like status!

All the above mythological deeds are should not come under fundamental rights.



But..if we apply it in our real life in the name fundamental rights..it's a sure, potent cocktail for total destruction of our civlised, social set up.

Humans are polygamous by nature. But civilization demands certain discipline. If procreation is not involved in this issue, Live-in relationships are not going to cause that much problem with societal setup.


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Administrator
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written by Administrator, March 31, 2010
Live-in relation are individual decisions and consensual in nature. Its not forceful or intimidatory, so courts have no right to interfere. The parties are well clear of its intentions, effects and repercussions. Similarly, the issue of parenthood in Live-Ins is also consensual in nature.

I prefer to call them relation of consensual convenience rather than lust of Convenience. Consensus is just a word of mouth "YES, I AGREE" with no legal backing. It can change anytime from YES to NO. Then what?

Its individuals concern to be prepared for the consequences and extreme outcomes. Its good for the parties to be educated, before enjoying the fruits of Ecstasy.

The courts have no obligation to uphold the societal values, it rests on the individuals to protect it.

Every time the society/court/fundamentalists impose restrictions then we cry loud that India is a Taliban.

I remember to hear the same loud cries when Sri Ram Sene activists slapped couples involved in obscene acts in public places or every time educational institutions put code for dressing.

As you said that we ape western societies, its correct that we follow but not APE. Every democracy tries to give its individuals maximum freedom where a mind can work without restrictions for optimum output. The courts just guarantee that clause "Right to Life" which demands freedom. If the act is consensual between individual without any effect to society then others have no right to interfere.

Freedom and Independence comes with their side-effects and hangovers like Live-in relationship, premarital sex, divorce etc. Its the irony of our generation that people want freedom minus hangovers and side effects.

Still, I would choose FREEDOM and INDEPENDENCE in my life. I don't have any problem to clean my toilet if I shit on it.
Pavalamani Pragasam
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written by Pavalamani Pragasam, March 31, 2010
umbrella, I'm very relieved to hear some sensible talk on this matter after being maddened, saddened, frustrated and what not with the furore my same objections were posted in another site on the same date I read the verdict in the Times, Mumbai. The dust has not settled yet. So many are there to pity Khusboo for 'samooga kaavalarkaLin pallidukkil maattikoNdu thavippathaRku'!!! 'Social responsibility' as you have rightly termed is absent in all the blah blah I read about individual freedom, mutual consent, no legal trespass etc. Wedlock locks a pair in responsibility, commitment; living together has no lock, the door is always kept open for either one to walk out. There is nothing that is 'ours' , only 'yours' and 'mine'. Such irresponsible reference to archaic, puranic customs and cultures is a shameful, criminal twisting of the main issue of the hurt suffered by a highly irresponsible, flippant talk. People are making a hue and cry as if our whole country is already, entirely submerged in the moral lawlessness of the west and it is hypocritical to talk about our values. I'm still seething in rage!!!


(BTW, did you see my comment for your previous post posted under its previous post?)
Santosh
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written by Santosh, March 31, 2010
Our constitution guarantees the right for two consenting individuals to live in together. However along with the right there is a responsibility for the couple to own, provide and protect any addition thereof. The law severely reprimands any non compliance to the ownership.Having said that I wholeheartedly agree with you on the sanctity of a marriage. The level of commitment, accountability, purity in love, flexibility and / or adaptability is a function of our value systems that helps built a moralistic society and a ideal nation.
Live in as you rightly said is undesirable vice of an highly industrialized society that we inherited from the west. Regrettably the vices are much easier to imbibe than the virtues!!
Raja
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written by Raja, April 01, 2010
Live-in
Merits of live-in relationships are that it does not require any formal commitment from the partner. It is sharing the same house and bed like roommates, satisfying their physical as well as psychological needs and enjoying life together like friends. If he/she finds problem in continuing, either due to boredom or incompatibility, then they have the choice to opt out without any legal hassle. Relationship does not feel as burden which has to be carried whole life even if unhappy.
Also quite contrary to the belief that live-in relationships favor male partner, it is the other way round. Women becoming more educated have come at par or surpassed their male counterparts in many areas. Awareness of rights and economic independence has aided acceptance of live-in relationships as it provides her an edge as she is not bound by society and law.

But live-in relations although seem a good alternative has it drawbacks of forcing your life into an unstable phase. As there are no legal rights so life is filled with fear of separation. Relations can break even on mundane issues. Relationships often serve only the purpose of sexual and economic necessity rather than emotional and psychological support. On breakup they can causes an irreparable damage even to further relationships as the fear of relationships creeps in. Women though gain freedom by live-in relationships but yet in Indian society the aftermath of breakup at later stage of life will requires an extraordinary will to overcome societal pressures.

Marriage
Marriage is already an established institution universally.The controversy which has aroused regarding the efficacy of marriage is due to the misuse of the marriage system. It led to the exploitation of women, the dowry system, and taking women for granted.. But with awareness amongst women and due to their economic independence they are no longer dependent on their spouse, rather they go out to face the world and provide equal support in economic matters along with their caring support at home. Women have taken up the dual role successfully, but for the marriages to be successful men also have to pursue the dual role and responsibility.
Most important feature which the marriage performs along with its emotional and economic support is the upbringing of the children. It acts as a guardian and guide during the socialization of the child. The child gets parents who are committed to the cause and responsibility of his care. Live-in relationships however strong cannot provide the same degree of commitment in matters of child socialization, moreover when live-in relationships face the responsibility of upbringing a child then the informal setup created for convenience sake begins to tremble.

Any institution in a long term is vulnerable to many problems and live-in relations are no exception to that. If advocators of live-in relationships regard it as long term permanent solution, then they should be asked why not to go with the similar solution we already have, why do you want to reinvent the wheel and then give it a different and more alluring name. So instead of going for fancy looking setup we should try to renovate the much durable setup as no doubt the marriages are made in heaven but the responsibility to maintain it lies with us.
All said and done,for adults it is a private affair and should be left to individuals to decide whether it is right or wrong.The courts should not comment on its moral/immoral character, more so by bringing Radha and Krishna, for which there is no valid proof.
umbrella
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written by umbrella, April 03, 2010
@admin-
well..the issue of parenthood in Live-ins is more complicated. There is always the risk of breakups..splits. Since this Live-ins don't have any legal binding..they dont come up with any emotional guarantee, these couples dont have any right to bring in another life into this world! So.. Mutual consent or not..the so called freedom and independence stops at procreation! If only the Judiciary made it clear in it's verdict...
umbrella
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written by umbrella, April 03, 2010
@PP-
still seething in rage?..lolzz.

Well..as long as these couples avoid having children..i have no problem in accepting these relationships. After all..they r adults.. they make their bed..they lie on it!

Oh yes! i saw ur comment.

If u check out my blogspot, u can see her[Tulasi] URL.

http://www.umbrella-abteverything.blogspot.com

Thank u for ur input.
umbrella
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written by umbrella, April 03, 2010
@Santosh-
"the vices are much easier to imbibe than the virtues!! "..very true.

Thank you for ur input.

[ Howcome u always manage to come up with the right view?]smilies/smiley.gif

On saying that..I dont rem arguing..or debating with u on any issues..even when our views differed! I sure learnt..and still learning a lot from u. Thank you.
umbrella
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written by umbrella, April 03, 2010
@Raja-
wow..U summed it up quite well. "All said and done,for adults it is a private affair and should be left to individuals to decide whether it is right or wrong.The courts should not comment on its moral/immoral character, more so by bringing Radha and Krishna, for which there is no valid proof"- I agree with u wholeheartedly.

Thank you for ur input.smilies/smiley.gif
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written by Arvind Singh, August 04, 2010
I agree that if two adults choose to have physical relations, without a marriage certificate to reinforce the legality of their actions, it is nobody’s business but their own, But no one can guarantee that in such relationships children will not be born. Who will look after the women involved when they pass their prime and no one wants to 'live in' with them? i read some on http://www.lawisgreek.com/live...t-verdict/
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